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Hi Everyone 👋💕

I am dropping in to add my encouragement and support, but my circumstances have changed rather dramatically since joining the forums.  When I first came here I was trying to support a severely eating disordered spouse and flag down medical help / intervention, for him as the sufferer who didn’t know he was a sufferer, me as his wife, and our children who were being thrown around by his condition.  We were all living with an undiagnosed eating disorder.

Another, even more serious condition appears now to have been underpinning his issues with food and exercise, and equally difficult to diagnose is a personality disorder, which appears to have been driving the ED.

I have to keep saying “appears” because nothing was ever diagnosed, and the NPD pattern followed through the devaluation to discard cycle, with an ongoing Family Law matter to address massive hidden betrayals events beyond the fact that he had re-partnered without my awareness before the marriage ended, and had embedded our disabled daughter in that relationship, also without my awareness until D2 (daughter 2) spilled the beans without understanding the dynamics or consequences.

Whether x is still in the grip of his ED I don’t know, but I was told throughout our struggles by medical professionals, as generic advice, that if someone were to be doing what I was describing they were, it was unsustainable and would result in a health crisis eventually - but that there was little to no chance that it could resolve itself,  He was going to need help and support in the longer term.

The kids and I are no longer involved with x at that level, however I am more than happy to support others in a similar situation in any way I can.

🌷F&H