16-12-2018 12:10 PM
16-12-2018 12:10 PM
You can drink as much mulled wine as you like at a virtual party @eth
There are no consequences
I think I might start the day with Christmas Cake - with plenty of marzipan and royal icing and made with port - real port -
I can't possibly eat too much of that either
Dec
16-12-2018 12:18 PM
16-12-2018 12:18 PM
It is those kind of memories that make this time of year both full of joy and also sad when we no longer have those things in our lives @Owlunar. It is the anniversary of my Nan's death tomorrow but Toby's birthday the day after - so it is both a sad and happy time regardless of it being the christmas period. We all have our stories to tell about this time of year and it is great that we have a place to share them on here.😀
@eth enjoy the farm Hon - sounds like a nice way to spend the afternoon
@The-red-centaur Lovely to have you here
16-12-2018 12:30 PM
16-12-2018 12:32 PM
16-12-2018 12:32 PM
Thanks @Zoe7
I understand your feelings about all sorts of things - loss included - around this time
Today is the anniversary of my son's adoption - it is not tearing me up today - perhaps I have shed enough tears for now but I remember going to the hospital to get him and he was two weeks old and beautiful - such a perfect little baby
And today as I wrote earlier - my Gran's birthday - I always gave her the same thing - a white lace hanky - we always need hankies and she always had white lace ones
I loved this eccentric old lady - she always wore the same kind of dresses and it drove my mother cranky. I took her into Melbourne when I was a teenager and I think it was the last time the old lady went shopping - mum told me I would learn and I probably did - I enjoyed watching Gran try on dress after dress in different shops until she was happy and she had three almost identical dresses - which is what she wanted
I am sure that being with my grandmother so often - as I was - gave me the courage to be honest and be happy with being who I am - people were served in shops back then and I learned a great deal that day - and not at all what my mother thought I would learn
I really loved that old lady
Dec
16-12-2018 12:34 PM
16-12-2018 12:34 PM
@Sans911 it all came about because of the last Topic Tuesday and a discussion I had with @Former-Member - so it is a team effort. Lovely to have you here with us too
16-12-2018 12:37 PM
16-12-2018 12:37 PM
I hear you @Owlunar I had a very close relationship with my Nan too - she was my best friend. We had a special connection and I spent so much of my time with her and Pop. They also did so much for us kids - they were indeed wonderful people
16-12-2018 02:27 PM
16-12-2018 02:27 PM
@frog @Razzle I missed you two off the earlier list for this thread - I knew I would miss people - hope you can join us here for some christmas or non-christmas chats - whatever is your preference at his time of year.
Hello also to @Artvandalay who has recently joined us here at the forum
16-12-2018 03:27 PM - edited 16-12-2018 03:31 PM
16-12-2018 03:27 PM - edited 16-12-2018 03:31 PM
Well said @Owlunar
Soz.. had to edit. I was referring to what you said about being our authentic selves around family.
16-12-2018 03:34 PM
16-12-2018 03:34 PM
great thread @Zoe7
Its good reading all the christmas stories.
Being proactive like this seems to bring out the best, and not just the fear, complicatedness and sadness ... of the season.
Good to see you @The-red-centaur @Sans911 @eth @Owlunar
Being online here on the forum has really helped my last few christmases.
I will tag a few newer people. The aim of these threads is to be open for anyone who feels the need.
@Everan @AnxiousMe @christofff @Loumarie @Lise07 @Eden1919 @Peri @Blueflyer @Corny @Juno @Acon78 @Headcase @Former-Member @Lilyq @Starta
16-12-2018 03:38 PM
16-12-2018 03:38 PM
@Appleblossom thank you so much for tagging those people
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