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[Londongal]

I am a scam victim and ended up homeless.  I've been through so much.  I've lost so many relationshops and feel very alone.

[Sparky79]

@Londongal I'm so sorry you've been through that, I'm glad you're here and are looking to help yourself.

Also if you wish to tag one of us so we get notified of your response just use the @ symbol and a drop down list of the most recent contributors will show up, or you can type our name and it should pop up.

[RebelliousAngel]

@Londongal I'm so sorry to hear you've been the victim of a scam and ended up homeless. Have you had any support to help you through this incredibly challenging time? It's hard when we lose relationships when we need them the most. I understand you are feeling alone and while we can't be there physically we are here for you in this space 🩵.

[REDLINEZ750]

@Londongal your user name, are you away from family?

not to be nosey or  presumptuous so please forgive me if im way off i ask for knowing how lonely it can be in another country from family.

Its a horrible thing thats happened to you and  hope You know its not your fault, its so calculated and hard to know before hand, i know close friend experienced that and when your hurting like you are hard to  not believe negative thoughts of self blame.

have you had your four legged friend a long time?

ireally  hope your ok 

[Londongal]

I am in the same country as 2 of my kids and 1 l8ves overseas.  My relationship with them has been destroyed and I don't know how to repair it.  My dog is 10 and I've had her since a pup

[AuntGlow]

I can't even imagine how distressing this experience would have been for you @Londongal... and to have also lost access to housing and relationships. This is so much for you to go through. 

Please let us know if there's anything you'd like support or guidance around, okay?

I am so glad to see people supporting you and I hope this helps with the sense of feeling alone. 💛

[Londongal]

Thank you for your kind words.  I'm glad to say that I now have stable affordable accommodation and I do work.  I'm basically trying to rebuild my life.  But this experience has really shown me who my real friends are

[AuntGlow]

I am so glad to read that you have been slowly rebuilding. @Londongal

It sounds like the thing that's weighing heavy on your heart are the friendships and supports that are no longer there, which is so understandable... 

Can you tell me more about the people who are there for you at the moment?

Also - please @ and the type my name, so I don't miss any messages! 💛

[Londongal]

I have a small group of friends but only one of them knows about the scam.  I don't feel that I can or want to reveal it.  So I feel I am leading a life which is not authentic.  Luckily where I am living is a small community so I can have a chat with the other residents in the garden

[REDLINEZ750]

@Londongal  few years back a day ended in me medicated for dysregulated moods anxiety and ptsd.

my adult kids attacked  me for my behaviour. each hit  emotionally hurt to levels it was causing problems in my stomach

still love them, still want whats best for them, radically accepting they are adults that didnt care they  were dragging me down gave few terms of my own before it destroyed me, for a year thier regrets been ignored.

without knowing why or how your relationships fractured with your kids 

you know if you done your best if  they were loved not abused

is it possible  your hurt for how you wish it was is stopping you from standing up to what it is....

be kind to yourself, look after you and doggo

dog needs to know your ok because its worried about you.

its understandable not wanting to say you been scammed, nothing to do with authenticity if you fear being judged you may be judging yourself,  validating a negative thought  of  feeling responsible or should of known better none of which is true and damaging your sense of self

look up what happened to you and most likely find its happened to hundreds maybe thousands of others it might be easier to lighten the way your feeling if your putting  responsibility on yourself instead of compassion

hope your ok