The Weekly Friday Feast

[Former-Member]

@Jacques maybe you could ring the sane helpline to ask what services would be available to someone who can't speak & then if you have some concrete information she might be more receptive? 

Tip: I tried positive thinking when my mental ill health first became debilitating - it is actually counterproductive. 

She may be suffering from PTSD? 

@NikNik - yeah, it isn't the best look - best to put on those yoga tights & crop top or sports bra! (top on top unless you are super body confident!) I think not having reception will be awesome - although I get scared if I don't have credit for a phone call - a break from social media & internet is always good though

Namaste,

Anna

[Former-Member]

Hi @Jacques, 

I have absolutely no expertise in any of this but my gut says if you could somehow find someone who has lived through something similar and has found life beyond this it could help her to realise there could be a life beyond this for her as well. There is obviously so much trauma in this, I feel for her and you helping her through this. You really are a beautiful soul. I wish you all the best with this, hugs💜😊

[Jacques]

Yes @Former-Member you are absolutely right i think she does suffer PTSD but she has not been formally diagnosed as having it, it is also a struggle because she is not from Australia so I need to make sure the services are where she lives.

Thank you for telling me about the positive thinking, it has not worked for her in the past.

@Former-Member, thank you so much, that is a wonderful idea, i never thought of finding someone who has lived through it to talk to her, i will try to do it if I can, thank you so much.

[Former-Member]

It's ok @Former-Member. I'm trying to do the good cheer but probably failing a bit tonight with it. I'm probably doing the sads and serious better tonight. Otherwise I possibly would have rode along with you.  Keep up the good cheer though 💜😊😄😀

[Former-Member]

Hehe! @Former-Member. It's good to joke around. I enjoy a laugh. 😀😂

[Former-Member]

@Former-Member  I know that feeling, that life feels like its passing by.  34 is still young, you probably dont think so though.  I didnt get married until very late 30's.  Thats great that you have been studying psychology.  Ive heard that its a very difficult subject to study.  A lecturer mentioned that when I was at our local university with my daughter recently.  I was in my 30"s when I travelled overseas.  I wish I had waited until I met my hubby, I really didnt like travelling alone.  Not to worry, cant change the past, but can only do my best to make sure the future is better.  I cant wait to feel well enough to travel again, to experience it all without extreme fatigue and anxiety.  

I often feel very frustrated that I am not achieving what I would like to achieve, due to health.  But I try to look back at how bad I was and I can see that I am alot better.

Rest up and look after yourself.  Good things will happen.  

[Former-Member]

Enjoy your evening @Faith-and-Hope  

[Faith-and-Hope]

@Former-Member wrote:
Seriously don't know how I'm going to cope with 3 out of the 4 in my house now struggling with mental health @Faith-and-Hope. 😔
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I reckon you're on the right forum to be asking that question @Former-Member ..... it seems to me there are a number of people here who grew up in families with mi threads running through them who can offer advice ....

Some of the mi issues are common to many of us in a lighter form - in other words they're on a spectrum .... and we find strategies and boundaries to make them work. Add in strong personality traits, artistic ideas and temperaments, financial strain, physical and mental disabilities, blended families .... there are so many variations, and the family members need to work out their communal dynamic.

You will too .... try not to fear the worst ....

I haven't had a chance to go through all the responses on this thread yet, but I caught @Former-Member's and it made good sense to me. @Appleblossom is another woman of wisdom and practical experience here ... and there will be ohters who can advise.

If you lead with love and respect, you will find a balance that works, and it won't always be perfect, but it will be okay.

As awkward as our situation is, we have found a working compromise.

💜💜💜

[Faith-and-Hope]

Have taken a bathroom break @Former-Member 😊

I have managed to get all my spilled peas onto the table .... lol .... even tho it meant driving back home to pick up D3 and WH after a last minute, almost too late, change of mind .... and daughter-in-law is here !!

We have our wins !

🌷💜

[Former-Member]

But @Faith-and-Hope your kids have you guiding them, mine have me and it's like the blind leading the blind except that I'm worse than the kids. I have no faith in keeping control and being able to help them and not make things worse. I am so stressed with it all right now. 😞