Just checking in.

[CheerBear]

I feel you @Faith-and-Hope. Within the walls of your home is really tough. Your kids are awesome. They have a great mumma ❤ I love that they're supporting you to do being. Enjoy that load off and quiet. Bliss 😊❤

@Maggie I half laughed at being born with a carers hat. Just at the image of that. I had some news of new life entering this world this morning and was imagining the fresh, squishy one coming out wearing a hat 😉😆

It is a muddle to be a caring one. A caring, doing one is exhausting and tricky in so many ways, especially when guilt comes knocking too.

Always a great start to my day to share a cuppa with you. I hope there is peace and calm in your day, however your day may be 😊❤

[Maggie]

@CheerBear  Heading back to my cave. This mean a lot when I read it. It might to you, and it might not.

[CheerBear]

It's beautiful and means a lot to me too. ❤ for the cave @Maggie

[Faith-and-Hope]

❤️ from here too @Maggie .... that quote is beautiful 🌷

[Faith-and-Hope]

💜💐 @Teej 

[Teej]

Dearest @Maggie , @CheerBear , @Faith-and-Hope ,

youve possibly guessed from my likes that I’ve just signed in for a few days. It was truly beautiful to read the support and caring and 'being' human here. I saw your avatar @CheerBear  and knew things were not great. @Maggie the beautiful flower that you are is blooming more and more on the forum. I’ve loved getting to know a bit more of you and looking forward to getting to know more in the future 😘. 

My just checking in is that ive been ok just busy and lots of things to get through. This weekend was my 8th year anniversary of my d day. I have been ok. It’s been different to every other year for a few reasons. I think I’m beginning to get some distance from him and his stuff.

This week coming is going to be hard and I expect roller coastering. Many things in my life are changing when I’m not ready for it. This week coming brings more of that. A Centrelink thing (and job provider thing as my exemption finished) and a change in living arrangements.....and a court date. 

I have spent lots lots of time with family since Thursday. It has been quality time but need my space a bit now. @CheerBear I totally feel for you with that. A cave with kids is hard. I think I often did it in my head without knowing. My kids all started calling me by my first name as I was so often tuned out 😳. One still does. 

Im learning lots about adhd and two kids are identifying with it greatly. Although it wasn’t picked up earlier at least they are at an age where they can actively do something about it by choice (and therefore with more determination) as opposed to a child rebelling against the support and doing what was needed (which they would have done). One is anti medication, the other would consider it. My time taking the meds is so hard to work out the effectiveness. I have too many big stresses and hormones (meddled peri menopausal brain) to know how effective the meds are but will continue on with them for a bit. 

I need to go for now now as I have a birthday family tea here tonight. I hope to be back on the forum tomorrow. I am totally unable to multitask. 😏😳

[CheerBear]

It's so, so good to see you @Teej ❤

I remembered the other day that your d day anniversary is around now. I thought of it because my big bang anniversary is in a few weeks and you sharing how you have gotten through has helped me a lot. So good to hear you're getting some distance from him now and it seems like you're doing OK with the anniversary. Mine hurts again, less than the first year but maybe more than last year. It's a tricky time.

Your week ahead sounds extra hard 🙁 Not a lot of words for that but lots of knowing feels. I hope you have some supportive support this week. Hugs for you for everything you're going through. It's all big. 😘

(Ps loved the @Maggie flower 💛)

[Faith-and-Hope]

Short on words but big on feel here too @Teej 💜💞

[Maggie]

@Teej  🌸🌸

@CheerBear 💕💜

[outlander]

@Maggie @Faith-and-Hope @CheerBear @Teej  One for each of you